The OASIS Guide to Asperger Syndrome
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About Patty R. Bashe

About Barb Kirby
The OASIS Guide to Asperger Syndrome: Completely Revised and Updated
Advice, Support, Insight, and Inspiration

by Patricia Romanowski Bashe and Barbara L. Kirby
Forewords by Simon Baron-Cohen, Ph.D. and Tony Attwood, Ph.D.


Completely Revised Edition Available March 29, 2005 at Local and Online Bookstores
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“A godsend to the increasing number of families who have a child recently diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome (AS). They will get sympathetic and sound practical advice for the difficulties they are facing, whether it is in coming to terms with the diagnosis or in choosing the right kind of education and therapy. Two heroic mothers, Kirby and Bashe, have made it their business to find out what AS is really like and what it entails in practice. They show by example that it is possible to meet the challenges of a child with unusual skills as well as problems. Above all, they show the way in which AS can enrich our lives.
-Uta Frith, PhD
Professor of Cognitive Development, University of London
Deputy Director of the UCL Institute of Cognitive Neuroscience
Author of Autism and Asperger Syndrome

“Well beyond merely identifying and defining AS, the authors provide dozens of field-tested strategies that can be used at home, in the classroom, and in the community. . . . Bashe and Kirby offer reliable counsel on topics related to diagnosis, treatment, assessment, and placement. If you share your home or classroom with a child with Asperger Syndrome, buy this book.”
-Richard D. Lavoie, MA, MEd
Visiting professor, Simmons College
Executive producer of How Difficult Can This Be? The F.A.T. City Workshop

“The OASIS Web site has been a light of hope for individuals with Asperger Syndrome, their families, and advocates. Kirby pioneered ways of transforming the Internet into an accessible tool to help those who needed reputable information and practical guidelines on social disabilities. Her groundbreaking ways continue in this collaboration with Bashe, now in its second edition. . . . Inspired and informed by their professional background and by their uniquely intimate perspective on parenting children with AS, the two compiled a treasure of essential solutions to anyone who, like them, experiences the joys and challenges of nurturing the talents and addressing the needs of these very special individuals.”

-Ami Klin, Ph.D.
Harris Associate Professor of Child Psychology and Psychiatry
Yale Child Study Center

"To improve on the remarkable is an achievement few accomplish. With the revised edition of The OASIS Guide to Asperger Syndrome, Patricia Romanowski Bashe and Barbara Kirby have created an even more essential resource for parents and professionals. At once comprehensive and easy-to-navigate, the revised OASIS Guide will offer parents, teachers, and other professionals a wealth of information in a compoassionate voice by parents who have been there. Every parent of a child with Asperger Syndrome and every teacher working with these students should own this book."
-Michael Powers, Psy.D.
Center for Children with Special Needs
Yale Child Study Center
Author, Asperger Syndrome and Your Child: A Parent’s Guide

"Just when I decided that The OASIS Guide was the ultimate "go to" book for AS, the authors made it even better! The completely revised and updated OASIS Guide yields another nugget of wisdom every time I pick it up. Whether the reader is new to AS, needing ideas about an emgerging problems, or facing the next developmental stage The OASIS Guide offers readable, practical advice. I’ll recommend it enthusiastically and often."
-Theresa Bolick, PhD.
Author, Asperger Syndrome and Adolescence: Helping Preteens and Teens Get Ready for the Real World and Asperger Syndrome and Young Children: Building Skills for the Real World

"The complexities and treatment needs of the person with Asperger Syndrome (AS) are described far better in this comprehensive book than any other book on the subject. Virtually any topic that related to helping the child with AS is discussed….The Reader can explore the emotional impact of this diagnosis on the family while also gaining insight into specific treatment strategies that can be used both by professionals and parents. This is an excellent and uplifting must-read for all parents and professionals trying to come to terms with their child or student who is "bright but clueless."
-Michelle Garcia Winner, M.A., S.L.P.-C.C.C.
Director, The Center for Social Thinking

"A wonderful book – this volume will be an invaluable guide for parents and teachers."
-Fred R. Volkmar, M.D.
Professor of Child Psychiatry, Psychology, and Pediatrics
Yale University Child Study Center

"This book, written by two parents of children who have AS, is well researched and gives sound, practical advice on diagnosis, treatment, and effective interventions. It addresses the needs of the whole child."
-John Pomeroy, M.D.
Associate Professor of Psychiatry
Director of The Cody Center for Autism and Developmental Disabilities
State University of New York at Stony Brook

"If I had one cent for every person who has ever said, "Where would my family be without Barb Kirby and OASIS?", I would be as rich as Midas. But some things are better even than gold. Thank goodness Barbara L. Kirby and Patricia Romanowski Bashe know that! Together, they have provided the community of Asperger Syndrome with more than a rainbow’s end of the shiny stuff. I wonder if they knew that when they finished taking the OASIS website and turning it into a stuffed-full-with-good-things book, they would also be opening a wondrous treasure chest brimming with understanding and support.
-Liane Holliday Willey, EdD
Pretending to be Normal: Living With Asperger’s Syndrome and Asperger Syndrome in the Family: Redefining Normal

"If someone were to ask me to suggest the most useful resource about AS, I would not hesitate for an instant: The Oasis Guide to Asperger Syndrome. The authors have presented all the current information on AS with admirable clarity and empathy. This is a must-read book for parents, educators, and individuals with AS alike."
-Brenda Smith Myles, Ph.D.
Associate Professor, Department of Special Education, University of Kansas
Author, Asperger Syndrome and Difficult Moments: Practical Solutions for Tantrums, Rage, and Meltdowns

"If it is important for parents and professionals to be on "the same page," – and it surely is – I strongly recommend starting with any page in the Oasis Guide to Asperger Syndrome! There is something in this book for everyone. For parents there is sound advice, comforting support, and remarkable insights that are sure to inspire. For professionals, the book offers a compass whose true north will point the way towards success when the changing "terrain" of Asperger syndrome renders typical educational road maps ineffective. There is even a special gift for those with Asperger syndrome – recognition of their struggles, and an acceptance and profound respect for who they are. This book is both inspired and inspiring!
-Diane Twachtman-Cullen, Ph.D.
Executive Director, ADDCON Center
Author, How To Be a Para Pro: A Comprehensive Guide for Training Paraprofessionals, How Does Your IEP Measure Up and Trevor, Trevor

"This book will be of genuine and continual assistance to those working on behalf of children and adults with Asperger Syndrome. Rarely does one find such a wealth of quality information all between the same two covers. Some books boast and swagger. This one quietly walks up and raises the bar. This book has important work to do, and it is more than up to the task."
-Carol Gray
Director, The Gray Center for Social Learning and Understanding and Author and Creator of Social Stories and Comic Book Conversations

"This book will go to the head of my reference list for parents. It is
thorough, accurate, and user friendly."
-Susan J. Moreno, M.A.A.B.S.
President of Maap Services, Inc.
Founder and Editor of The Maap and Author, "More Advanced Individuals with Autism and Asperger’s Syndrome"

"The OASIS Guide is unquestionably the most important resource in the field. It is an indispensable tool for anyone preparing for, or in the midst of running the marathon of parenting, grand parenting, teaching, coaching, treating or in any way becoming involved in the life of an AS child. It is also essential reading during those numerous rest breaks needed to stay sane on the road to the finish line. Bashe and Kirby have provided another gift to their over one million fans. Count me in as an unabashed OASIS cheerleader."
Steven E. Gutstein Ph.D.
Director, The Connections Center
and founder of RDI. Author, Autism, Aspergers: Solving the Relationship Puzzle

"This is a long awaited book for those living and working with individuals with Asperger Syndrome. The authors have put their years of gathered knowledge, information and resources into one chock-full volume. Presented in an easy to use format with everyday language and compassionate understanding, it will be ‘THE BOOK of AS’ for years to come.
-Jeanne Angus, MA

"OASIS has long been a tremendous resource for family members and professionals. In this book, Barb and Patty have thoughtfully organized a massive amount of critical information into a comprehensive and valuable guide. Every family and professional should have a copy of this book readily available as an ongoing resource for supporting individuals with Asperger’s Syndrome. Congratulations to the authors for their valuable contribution."
-Cathy Pratt, Ph.D.
Director, Indiana Resource Center for Autism and Board of Directors, Autism Society of America

"Incredible! The OASIS Guide contains tremendous advice, tips, and practical solutions to manage the confusion of special ed and Asperger Syndrome. The new parent and seasoned veteran should read the Guide, cover to cover. It is excellent."
-Peter W. D. Wright, Esq.
co-author, with Pamela Darr Wright, of
Wrightslaw: Special Education Law and, "Wrightslaw: From
Emotions to Advocacy: Survival Guide to Special Education

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Editorial Reviews


Publishers Weekly

When Bashe, a certified special education teacher, and Kirby, founder and moderator of OASIS (a popular Asperger Syndrome Web site with support message boards), published the previous edition of this book in 2001, parents of children with the pervasive development disorder flocked to it. The authors now offer this updated edition of the definitive resource, explaining what is currently known about the nature of Asperger Syndrome from the viewpoint of doctors and families. In understandable language, Bashe and Kirby provide instructions for parents on how to gain access to information, support and treatment for their child, covering the most up-to-date options available as well as advice on new medications and special education. Later, they look at aspects of the "whole child," offering suggestions for parents on helping their son or daughter manage their social and emotional worlds, life at school and general growing-up issues. Bashe and Kirby acknowledge that every AS child is different, but with the help of numerous anecdotes from parents of AS children, they manage to provide a wide-ranging, indispensable guide. (On sale Mar. 29)
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Publishers Weekly (First Edition Review)

Parents struggling to find answers about their children often have to wade through pedantic and confusing mazes. Frequently, books about medical or developmental conditions offer little more than the author’s personal story or a textbookish monotone. Refreshingly, these authors delve into the shady, often misunderstood world of pervasive developmental disorders, of which perhaps the most well-known is autism, with clarity, warmth and amazing depth, focusing on Asperger Syndrome (AS). The authors present unfamiliar terms and jargon with full explanations, and with none of the patronizing tone sometimes encountered in the medical world. The reader is not left with the personal story alone, and forced to go off on her own expedition for information. The authors (both mothers of AS children) effectively trace this disorder from the onset of symptoms through adulthood. While most parents may be tempted to skip straight to Chapter 2 to devour the list of telltale signs and apply them to their own child, they would do well to start at the beginning. The book grew out of the authors’ OASIS Web site (Online Asperger Syndrome Information and Support), which has furthered AS research immeasurably (the site’s response rates alone provide important information about potential numbers of people with AS). These authors have certainly done their homework. Besides invaluable practical information, parents and other interested persons will find comfort in the book’s welcoming tone and the knowledge that they are not alone.
Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information, Inc.


Both Bashe and Kirby have sons with Asperger Syndrome (AS), which is somewhat similar to autism. In this guide based on messages and discussions from the Online Asperger Syndrome Information and Support (OASIS) Web site, they point out early, and frequently underline, the fact that each AS sufferer is a person who deserves love and encouragement. After parents overcome the shock of AS diagnosis and realize that their child isn’t bad, nor are they bad parents, they will have many questions, plans, ups, and downs. This guide aims to lead them through all those in a practical and understanding manner. It stresses that flexibility, resilience, and factual information are major needs of all involved with an AS person; discusses methods for dealing with individuals and institutions; and strongly advises parents not to try going it alone. This helpful book concludes with referral to sources of further information.
–William Beatty
Copyright © American Library Association. All rights reserved

Library Journal

Though few Americans have ever heard of Asperger Syndrome (AS), recent studies suggest its rate of occurrence may be as high as seven in 1000. Also known as high-functioning autism, AS is characterized by obsessive behavior, normal to high intelligence, and deficits in social interaction, communication, and imagination. Bashe and Kirby, both mothers of children with AS, rely heavily on professional literature for their book. However, they also draw upon the results of numerous parent surveys they have posted on their OASIS (Online Asperger Syndrome Information & Support) web site. Their text covers clinical aspects of AS in practical language. The authors also deal with taking control of your child’s education and therapeutic program, as well looking at the whole child, including areas professionals tend to neglect. As awareness of AS grows among both professionals and the general public, so will the need for a book of this quality. A valuable purchase for most large and mid-sized collections.
–KellyJo Houtz Griffin, Eatonville, WA
Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information, Inc.



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